It doesn’t matter how many courses you take. Or how many books you read. Or how many blogs you follow. Nothing will push you to greatness more than the right people in your life. Of course, there will be a lot of people on your path, but the right people will come from getting clear on who you need around you.
Below is a list of 10 types of friends you really need.
- People who are themselves. They say what they mean and mean what they say. This does not equal to being irresponsible with their words. They are not cruel or hurtful. They are authentic, they cut to the chase, they talk simply.
- People who don’t test you. When you feel like your boundaries are being stepped over constantly, they are. People who don’t cross any lines are keepers!
- People who don’t gossip. Avoid gossips.
- People who don’t nag but find solutions instead. Any chronic nagger will drain your energy. Any solution-oriented person will uplift your energy.
- People who are able to just talk. No drama. No backwards stuff. No mind games. No “playing it safe” waiting for you to say things that they can mirror. No aggression. No passiveness. No arrogance. No competition. No “entertain-me”. Just a plain talk. Here is what I think. What do you think. Ah cool. I think. Ah great. Do you think? I don’t think. But I think. Ah good. Pleasant to talk to.
- People who recognize their community. No one is a self-sufficient monster of an individual. People who understand what it means to be a part of a group not out of selfish reasons, “Well, I don’t to be alone”, but out of interdependence will be great people in your life. We all depend on each other. They give, you give, no conditions placed on anything. Just the straight opposite of someone egoistical and proudly “highly individualized”.
- People who aren’t irresponsible. Responsibility is the new sexy. People who live as honestly as they can are keepers!
- People who are grounded in reality. People who can self-check. People who are not lead by the opinions of others.
- People who respect you naturally. This is a big one. This is the golden key. If there is no respect or you feel like a person is dangling a carrot in front of your eyes to get you to “earn their respect”… just leave. People who are keepers respect everybody they meet. Unconditionally. Because they respect themselves.
- Last but not least, people who trust you. If they trust you and they have actually shown you, you can trust them. Vulnerability goes both ways.